Hashem provides us with the tools, its up to us not to mess up
Example, Hashem gives us the gift of sight use it before you cross the street, Cant blame Hashem if one was distracted or one a cell phone (Hashem yishmor)
OK about the crisis, yes there is a Crisis, please dont give the shaduchim is completely out of our hands in Shas and Shilchan aruch
(Talmud Moed Katan 18b says “Mutar L’Ares Isha B’Cholo Shel Moed -One may get engaged to a girl on Chol HaMoed lest someone else come along and get engaged to her first”
The Talmud Yerushalmi Beitza Perek 5 Halacha 2 has the text as “shema Yekadmenu Acher B’Tefila- someone may get her first via prayer”. However, the Talmud there says that one who usurps someone’s intended wife via prayer, the marriage will not last)
there is a concept that tfila or chalila missing the opportunity can lead to a shema yikadmenu acher
we need to be responsible in shidduchim
There are roughly 105 boys born yearly to every 100 girls
( some special neshamos will never marry if Hashem creates them different)
meaning if boy and girls marry at the same age 5 boys will not have a zivug
most circles the boys are usually a bit older so that straightens out the numbers
BUT if boy wait until 22 or 23 or more, this will lead to many many girls not having a partner!
I feel Lo saamod al dam re’aycha would include boys postponing marriage (if they are ready)
And no lame terutzim about ‘I need to learn more’ if Hashem wants you to learn there are many kollelim.
beside lo hamedrish haikar ela hamasia, the Torah was given to act upon not just to learn it
Yes Talmid Torah k’neged kilum, Learning is great but dont throw away many other mitzvos just so you can learn a bit more.
Get married and continue to learn, and do chesed+
so is there a crisis, yes there are hundreds of singles out there waiting waiting for a zivug that may (Hashem yishmor) never show