I totally understand the reasoning behind it. That is the reason why I recently decided to do phone calls first before committing to a date. .
I tried the phone call idea once so far, and it worked out very well. After two phone calls, it was clear that the guy wasn’t for me, and I didn’t have to deal with (most of) the pressure that usually goes with dating.
I’m not sure I’d be comfortable with video conferencing though.
The problem I would have with video conferencing is that it would still entail all of the pressure that goes with dating, but without any of the advantages. I would still have to put the same amount of time and energy into making sure I look okay, and I would still have the pressure of having to be at a specific place at a specific time. And those are the main difficulties of dating for me.
I’d also be concerned that it would lead to many guys being more focused on looks, since they would be likely to use this as a method of screening out potential dates based on looks alone, whereas if they would go on an actual date, they are more likely to feel more committed to give it a try, and I think it’s easier to be focused on the person as a person when there is an actual person there as opposed to a video which can give the impression of the person being there but they really aren’t.
Since I’ve never actually done anything similar before, I can’t say for sure, but those are my feelings about it.