Dear Yankle, well written.
You want to hear something ironic? after a long day’s work in the city, I have a chavrusa with whom I learn Kiddushin - but that is NOT enough for some close minded and unintelligent folks in the frum world who are looking for the perceived “tzadick”, lol. But take it easy, there are good, thinking-for-themselves girls, who would actually appreciate a working frum boy.
Btw, any shadcahn who makes you feel “second class” is a “third class” shadchan and nothing good will come out of him/her.