I completely agree! I hate the whole picture thing. First of all, it’s not even an accurate portrayal of what the person looks like. And most importantly, you shouldn’t be marrying someone because of the way they look. You should be marrying someone because of who they are. Obviously, you can’t marry someone if their looks still bother you after getting to know them, but you have no way of knowing that from a picture!
You can end up not wanting to go out with someone because of their picture, but meanwhile, if you had met them in person, you would have felt very differently!
Furthermore, the way a person looks is really a combination of their physical appearance and their inner self (Neshama and personality) as it’s reflected in their face. The aspect of their appearance that’s most important is the second aspect, and that doesn’t show in a picture.
I think I saw a quote from one of the Gedolim saying something similar to this last point.
On a personal level, it bothers me when guys put pictures on their resumes, because their pictures make me not want to go out with them, and I might feel differently if I met them in person. For one thing, they might look very different, and for another, maybe I wouldn’t care if I met the person as a person and not just a picture.
Someone once tried to convince me to put my picture on my resume by telling me how everyone wanted to go out with a certain girl because she had such a good picture on her resume. I wanted to throw up! That really convinced me to not include my picture on my resume!